So you want to play games on a PC? You’ve asked your parents but they have flat out refused to consider it. I understand how frustrating that may be for you so I’m going to help you understand what your parents may be thinking and help you persuade them to reconsider.
1. Don’t get angry, get smart
The first step is not to be angry with your parents. Do not sulk or cause a scene, do not be grumpy or refuse to do the things they ask you to do. Be mature, think carefully about your next move and show your parents that you are grown up and can handle the situation. By becoming angry you are going to push your parents further away from agreeing to your request harming the chances of this happening in the future. By reacting negatively, your parents will not want to discuss it further with you.
There may be reasons why your parents have said no to the idea. You may not agree with them. Your parents may not even have given you a reason why. That’s probably frustrated you even more. Just because they have said no today doesn’t mean that you don’t have the opportunity to revisit the conversation at a later date. Use that time to prepare the reasons why a Gaming PC would be beneficial and why you think it would be a good idea. Read this guide, write down your reasons and learn them in order of what is most important and when that time comes, go back to them and sell them the benefits in a calm way. This is a sales pitch, you are the salesperson and they are your customer. Make a compelling pitch and they may just entertain another discussion at a better time.
2. Do you already have access to a PC?
Perhaps your family already has a PC which they think is suitable and does not need to be replaced. Some questions to consider are:
- How old is that PC?
- What is the specification?
- How does this compare to the specification that you require to play the game you want to play?
- Would it be suitable if it was upgraded?
- Could you add a graphics card to it and some more memory?
- What else would need to be changed?
This step is to try and understand what you have today and if it can be changed to ultimately end up being able to play the games you want to play. Upgrading or adding a new component to the PC will be cheaper and more straight forward than asking for a completely new PC. If the PC is old then the chances are very small, however if you are lucky enough that your PC isn’t very old then you may have the option to upgrade/add something like a graphics card.
Do your research at this stage and identify what you have today.
3. Are you asking for a new Gaming PC?
If you find that your existing PC is not suitable to upgrade then you will be asking for an entirely new PC. This will be more costly as your parents will need to buy everything from scratch. Is there anything you can reuse from your existing PC? Is the monitor suitable to be used or will you need a new one too? Perhaps reusing a monitor, keyboard or mouse will lower the cost slightly. You can always look to upgrade further down the line.
4. What can you do it return?
This step depends on your age.
If you are 15+ then can you get a part-time job to save up some of the money to pay for some of the Gaming PC? Maybe you could ask your parents to lend you some money and you pay them back once you have earned it from your job. This shows maturity and good management of money, something your parents will be keen for you to learn as it’s an important skill for the rest of your life. Once you have worked out how much the Gaming PC will cost you can work out how much you can earn and how long it will take to repay them. Remember not to spend all of your earnings on a Gaming PC as you may need it for other things too!
If you are younger then this option may not be available to you. Perhaps you can offer to do jobs around the house? Are your parents always telling you your bedroom isn’t tidy or you spend too long in bed? Perhaps you could offer to improve upon these things in return for a Gaming PC. You may need to show them that you are serious by making those changes and sticking to them before they agree.
Could you use your school work as a reason to strengthen your argument? Is there a subject where your parents are keen for you to improve? Could you agree that if you hit a certain result then them considering a Gaming PC is a reward? You can then study hard, achieve the result and show them that you are serious about the Gaming PC and will do whatever is neccessary for them to take you seriously.
You have to give something in return. This is a negotiation with your parents. You would like their help or money and they will want you to do something for them. This could be helping with something or them lending you the money. You need to show commitment and see this through.
5. What other uses could a Gaming PC have?
A Gaming PC is primarily for games with your friends but it doesn’t have to be used just to play games. Your parents may think that if they buy you a Gaming PC you may hide away in your room and they’ll never see you again. They may think that you spending your spare time gaming is not a good use of your time.
They may not realise that a Gaming PC is more versatile than a console. A console plays games. A PC offers you the possibility to learn. You could learn how to edit videos or images. You could learn to code. You could learn how to build a website. These skills are valuable and could help you get a job when you are older. Dedicating some time to something productive or creative will strengthen your case. Imagine if you learn how to build cool websites for local businesses and can make some money? Imagine if you could help local people fix their PC’s with the skills you have learned. These are opportunities which will help you to manage your own money and spend it on your next Gaming PC or give you the possibility to upgrade. Your friends may be spending their weekends working in a shop but you can work from your house earning good money!
Be open, look to learn and think of the PC as something beyond just playing games.
6. What games do you want to play?
Are games suitable for your age? If you are 8 years old then is it reasonable to play Fortnite? If you are 12 is it reasonable to play Call of Duty? Your parents may be put off if they see that you want to play violent games whereas maybe you want to play a racing game or strategy game which is more appropriate.
The games you want to play will also determine how much the Gaming PC will cost. If you want to play the latest games in 4k at ultra settings then a suitable setup may cost thousands of pounds. However, playing at 1080p with medium settings may result in the computer being much more reasonably priced.
7. How much will it cost?
This is one of the most important points. Have you worked out how much it will cost? This will be one of the first questions your parents will ask. If you don’t have an accurate answer then they may not think you are serious.
Work out how much the components will cost. Can you find the components cheaper elsewhere? Are you spending too much on a grapohics card? Would the model down be suitable and not affect performance too much? Do your research carefully and figure out how much the PC you would be happy with would cost. Remember to include everything you may need such as a monitor, keyboard and mouse. Make sure there aren’t any hidden surprises. Check and double check you have included everything. You don’t want to agree on a budget with your parents and then have to go back and ask for more. They may tell you that budget is final and you’ll have to change components for lower quality or not so good ones.
Also, be flexible. If you ask for a budget of £1000 and they agree to give you £800 see it as an opportunity to revisit the components you have asked for to see if you can find a build for that budget. Once again, respond positively. It’s a lot of money for you and your parents, they may not have budgeted for that money. Unless you find yourself in a situation where the budget will not stretch and you can justify why remain grateful. If not, be respectful and present the reasons why the budget would need to be increased.
8. Is your request for a Gaming PC reasonable?
Timing is everything. Are you asking for the Gaming PC just after Christmas or a Birthday? Do you know that your parents are struggling for money and therefore an expensive PC would not be possible? Have you been badly behaved and have a bad relationship with your parents? These are situations that you should consider carefully and perhaps delay or pick a better time to make a request if now would not be an appropriate time.
9. Do they have time to learn or help you?
Not only will you need their help with money but you may need their help with building the PC if that’s the route you decide to go down. If your parents are busy with work then they may see your request as an inconvenience and refuse to look in to it further because they feel it will take up a lot of time.
Your job is to convince them that yes they may need to help you but you’ll do most of the work. The good news is that the ParentsGuideToGaming can help save your parents time by explaining how things work in a simple way for busy parents:
10. Present it in an easy to understand way
There may be a lot to remember and things you want to say. You may have many points you want to explain to them as reasons why a Gaming PC would be a great idea! Write them down or better yet put them in to slides. Powerpoint or google slides are good tools that will both show your parents that you are serious as well as making sure you don’t forget anything.
The next step is to find a time when they aren’t cooking dinner or working. Ask for 10-15 minutes time and present to them the reasons why you think they should consider buying you a Gaming PC. Cover all of the points you have learned. Present them confidently and make sure you have practiced. Show them that you have spent time researching the subject, you have thought carefully about the reasons and now want to tell them. Don’t be aggressive, don’t get upset or annoyed if they ask questions. They may not understand the subject well and may have heard things from their friends or read newspaper articles that may be incorrect. Answer the questions and if you aren’t sure tell them you will find out and get back to them. Make sure that everything is clear and easy to understand without any jargon. Simplify things so that they don’t get confused.
They may not give you a yes/no answer at the end of the presentation but the way you have approached this will show maturity and they may need time to think.
You could also email them the links in step 9 so they can read through them when they have some time available before the presentation as preparation.